Find Your Soulmate by Keeping it Real
Be Honest with Yourself and Your Matches

It's vital to be honest, if you want to find your Soulmate. If the person you're contacting likes to hike and you hate the outdoors but like their photos, don't lie. Either this isn't a good match and you should move on, or maybe dig a little deeper to see if you have any interests in common.

For example:

"Hi again Sunshine 98! So you like to hike in the mountains; I had an amazing hiking trip this fall in the Blue Ridge Mountains up north in the Shenandoah National Park!  Hiking is one of my favorite things to do too. Have you gone on any cool hikes lately? I'd love to hear about them."

Remember with flirting it's subtle and it's brief. Beginning a relationship with subtle flirting (done right) is the best kept secret and critical dating advice for men and women alike in their search to find a wife, find a husband, or find your Soulmate. Be alluring and provocative not too deep - or too wordy. After all, if it's a real match there's plenty of time for deep conversation and the building of genuine intimacy.

If you're a woman wanting to find your Soulmate, look at this example and apply it to your own email correspondence:

Hi Ted! A few things in your profile grabbed my attention. I noticed immediately you like to scuba dive. I've been diving for 10 years now and just returned from an amazing dive off the coast of Key West. Have you been diving there before? I'm always looking for new spots to dive; I'd love to hear about your favorite dive sites.

Here's an example of keeping it real when deciding if someone is right for you or not:

Maybe you see a beautiful woman online. She seems intelligent, educated, and kind, but she loves to surf, swim, and scuba dive every weekend and you have an enormous fear of the ocean. Sure, there's a lot that you like about her, but do you think your relationship will work? You'd have to overcome your fear of water (is that realistic?) and make a drastic change in your weekends (could you sustain that for the next several years?). Otherwise you could spend your weekends apart (then what's the point of being a couple) or this could lead to arguments about how to spend your free time. If one of you gives in, this could lead to resentment - if not to something even worse.

Another Example of Keeping it Real in Your Quest to Find Your Soulmate

Maybe you're the quiet type - you'd like to read, meditate, and do peaceful activities as a couple. You see a man online who grabs your attention. You went to the same college, you both like to read, he's attractive and you've decoded his words. You're pretty certain he's ready to get serious. However, he says he loves parties and crowds, where he gets loud and lets off some steam. Think about this one. If you're the quiet type this may lead to conflict, communication problems, and more. In your search to find a husband, find a boyfriend, or find your Soulmate, take your time. Make sure your core values are aligned with those of your matches.

The world is full of singles looking to meet other singles - for marriage, for casual dates, or for whatever lies in between. Don't force it. There is someone for you out there. ("There's a lid for every pot"). Relationships that stand the test of time take work even under the best of circumstances. So make sure you don't start off with huge compatibility issues like the examples given above.

If you're faking it, you're really just wasting your time. That leads to another important piece of dating advice - don't lie or be a phony! Most men and women can sense it from a mile away so why set yourself up for rejection? Faking it, lying, and forcing your love isn't the way to find your Soulmate for sure.

Follow these tips to discover what you really want, how to find the man or woman who is right for you, and how to approach women or men by email. You'll find a wife, find a husband, find your Soulmate - or find your next great date - and have fun doing it too! If you're feeling out of practice or unsure, just call me or make an appointment to be coached! 

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