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Are You Making These Mistakes in Your Online Dating Profile?
Ten Ways to Improve Your
Online Dating Profile Today!

Get help writing your Online Dating Profile - The Online Dating Coach will help you design your Dating Profile!Joining an online dating site is the first step in finding love again. Once you've joined, designing your Online Dating Profile comes next. A creatively designed Online Dating Profile will help you rise above the competition - and get you noticed by your matches. But a poorly designed Dating Profile will banish you to the bottom of the list. To help you rise to the top, here's a list of the Top 10 Online Dating Profile Mistakes - and how to correct them.

1. Your Dating Profile doesn't have enough information. The biggest, and most common mistake, is that of not including enough information in your Online Dating Profile. If you're naturally modest or shy, your online dating profile isn't the place to show it. I've reviewed thousands of online dating profiles, and by far the single biggest mistake is being too brief. Your matches want to know about you - a LOT about you - and this is the place to talk about your inner values, what makes your personality unique, and all of the things you imagine in your future relationship. Don't scrimp on words here. Tell the whole story and make your online dating profile shine! (If you need help with this, contact us).

2. Your Dating Profile is way too self-centered. Yes, your online dating profile should be about YOU, but not ONLY about you! Take some time to describe your vision of a future relationship. Talk about the kind of partner you'd like to meet. Talk about your family and even your friends. Make your Dating Profile sound inviting - and like there's room in your life for someone new.

3. In your Online Dating Profile, you brag about your possessions. The person who came up with the notion that "whoever dies with the most toys wins" should be given an award for looking at life backwards. You may be proud of your new BMW, or want to shout to the world about that condo you just bought down south, but as a general rule of thumb, the woman or man who will fall in love with you probably won't connect with you for those reasons - and if they DO, then God save you both. Feature your inner qualities in your Online Dating Profile if you want a real relationship, and always remember that "the best things in life are free."

4. Your Dating Profile sounds like a job description. A lot of people (and both men and women are guilty of this) fall victim to the Mail Order Catalog syndrome when filling out their online dating profile. Heck, if you want to order something neatly packaged with the perfect size and color, call Lands' End. Listing your requirements for a life partner, although amusing to some readers, is usually a turn-off to most. Better to talk about what you have to offer, rather than your list of demands. And related to this point, is...

5. Your Online Dating Profile is a clear reflection of why your last relationship failed. Many people want to understandably avoid making the same mistake twice - especially twice in a row. But bouncing to the opposite extreme of your last partner may be a formula for disaster. For instance, your last partner spent money recklessly and extravagantly. So now you want to meet someone who counts the change in their pocket several times a day, just to make sure the books continually balance. Or your ex had a bad drinking habit - so now you're looking for someone who's sworn never to pop the cork from a bottle of wine. Or your former partner was a prude - so now you're on the lookout for a lap dancer. The middle path is generally the healthier one. Let your Dating Profile display balance, rather than an overreaction to a disappointment from the past.

6. Your Dating Profile talks too much about your inner demons. Online Dating is the place to connect with a kindred spirit - for the purpose of creating a healthy relationship. Airing your dirty laundry in your Online Dating Profile alerts the world that what you're really needing is therapy - not a new relationship.

7. Your Online Dating Profile is written in code. If you belong to a Secret Society and you want the whole world to know about it, start a blog and post to your heart's content. For the rest of us, please use simple English. Write sentences with a noun and a verb. Capitalize the first word of every sentence. Don't use abbreviations that a lot of people won't immediately understand. Save your text messaging for your iPhone. Write your online dating profile so anyone in your age bracket will immediately understand what you're saying. Just remember that when it comes to Dating Profile advice, YAFIYGI. (You Asked For It, and You Got It!).

8. Your Dating Profile has an edge - otherwise known as "Misery loves company." One principle that I use with my online dating clients, to help them understand how a dating profile works, is The Law of Attraction. If you include a message in your dating profile that has a negative feeling to it, even when you write about it in such a way as to avoid this quality in someone, the universe delivers anyway. So rather than talking about what you don't want, talk (with some reserve) about what you DO want. Or better yet, paint a picture with your About Me essay of the relationship you envision. It comes across less like a laundry list that way - and more as an invitation for love.

9. When you write the text for your Online Dating Profile, fill up the available room in each section. Write eloquently, with relevant, even poetic language. Show your reader your heart and your soul. Write in a way that inspires - and creates a smile. Show your humanity. Talk about the causes you believe in, and the special moments that have had a life-changing effect on you. Let your Dating Profile come to life!

10. Last but not least, after following all of the advice above, be sure to Spell Check your writing. Spelling mistakes and typos should never find their way into your Dating Profile. And if you're the type of person who feels even the least bit insecure about creating a Dating Profile, by all means, ask for help! I have more than 20 years of experience with Online Dating and will be glad to help you get the job done right. Call or click for a free initial consultation today.

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